Dear Crabby is a weekly column featuring the loveable but cantankerous Crabby, full of relationship advice for the lovesick. Let’s read what advice she has this week for our poor reader.
Okay, so I think I’ve finally given up on the guy that I’ve wanted for so long. I just don’t think it’s going to happen. Every time we get close, he pulls away. Like recently… Wait. Maybe I better tell you the whole story. So, this guy…let’s call him Sean. He and I hooked up a long time ago and things just didn’t work out. We’ve remained friends all these years, but it hasn’t stopped me from yearning for him. I might be in the friend zone, but that doesn’t mean I’m not looking for a way to get in closer.
Anyway, over the years since we connected, I’ve kind of…let’s just say I’ve played the field, hoping he’d come to his senses. He never has, and I’ve kind of grown accustomed to the whole love-‘em-and-leave-‘em lifestyle. Recently, I hooked up with a really hot biker and Sean all of a sudden became overprotective of me—maybe even jealous, trying to scare me away from this love interest by telling me the guy’s part of a motorcycle gang (I have no idea if that’s true or not, and it doesn’t matter). I found his reaction strange, because at that time he had a pretty serious girlfriend. Anyway, this whole situation led to him kissing me—and then he wanted to act like it never happened.
So I returned to my dallying ways but now…now there’s this guy who’s caught my eye—and he’s Sean’s best friend. I think he’s interested in me (he kissed me!)…and I think I’m interested in him. Should I go for it? Or should I just pass on by? Help!
~ Wondering in Winchester
You sound like the kind of woman who just can’t make up her mind. That’s where your problem lies. I suspect that you have no idea what you really want—and once you figure that out, you can answer your own dilemma. The guy you’ve been crushing on for years? Sounds like he doesn’t really want you, so maybe you should take a chance with new guy. But look inside yourself. The answer is there.
Dear Crabby will address reader letters every Monday.
Want to know what happened with Wondering? You can find out in Dead (Nicki Sosebee #2)!
Oh, but quick disclaimer! I recommend you read Nicki #1 (Got the Life) first if you haven’t already. 🙂