Dear Crabby is a weekly column featuring the loveable but cantankerous Crabby, full of relationship advice for the lovesick. Let’s read what advice she has this week for our poor reader.
Right now, I’m dating a guy I’ve been with off and on since I was 19 years old. I’ve known since then that he’s the only guy for me. And I’ve tried dating other men–believe me, I’ve tried. But none of them makes me feel complete like Zane does.
There’s a reason why we always break up, though. Without airing all my dirty laundry here, let me just say that he has a bit of a wandering eye. I’m not really the jealous type, but I do believe in monogamy and he sometimes has a difficult time staying faithful. I’ve tried to find a way to make us work, but I just can’t abide his straying any longer. It breaks my heart.
I have changed so much since the last time we were together, and that’s a big part of the reason why I won’t tolerate his behavior any longer. That’s hard, though, because I’ll never love another man like I love him. But I’ve made up my mind. I cannot do this anymore! How do I impress upon him that this is his very last chance to get his act together…or risk losing me forever?
–Desperate in Denver
It sounds to me like you were a bit of a pushover in your youth but that you are trying to get your head on straight. Good for you. Most girls are once dumb, always dumb. I can’t help those girls, but it sounds to me like maybe I can help you.
Love is overrated. Love does not conquer all. You need a man in your life to take care of you, with or without the L word. Tell this guy you’re done with his antics once and for all. If he feels the same way for you as you do for him, he’ll shape up…or show his true colors once more, in which case, sayonara, baby. Good luck!
Dear Crabby will address reader letters every Monday.
Meanwhile, if you’re dying to know how Desperate in Denver’s relationship turned out, you can find out in Locked and Loaded (Bullet #6), which comes out February 1, 2016. You can pre-order it at these sites: